Posts tagged femme lyfe
Posts tagged femme lyfe
is that a femme fag patch i spy in the corner?
Why yes it is! Just out of frame is the “femme on femme” patch :)
Doing drag this summer has made me think about gender, specifically my own gender identity and presentation, a lot and actually differently than I previously had.
I feel that so many people talk about examining themselves, figuring out their gender shit, it is almost always about becoming “freed” from femininity. Everyone in the queer community is highly conscious and careful about making sure not to push anyone into femininity (god forbid). Gender nonconforming women are given a safe space. Gay men are given a platform to refute any femininity attributed to them because of their sexual orientation. Nobody ever apologizes for masculinity.
We think we’re so respectful of the entirety of the gender spectrum in our awesome, uber politically correct, queer little bubble, but really, we’re still disparaging femininity. We like to shit on the dominant heteronormativity, but fuck, we still subscribe to mainstream misogyny—is that any better?!
Last night, on the way home from drag rehearsal, a conversation I was having with a friend essentially led me to this realization (we were talking about the final number, a “boylesque” striptease down to underwear/dick/binding): I would feel more comfortable on stage in a little bra and underwear than a binder and boxers, regardless of what covers more.
There is a lot more to this…I guess I feel at a loss for what do with all of this and with myself. I mean there is not really anything to do right now, but….I don’t know how to make this work for me. In the present. As a cisgender gender female I never thought I would really have to deal with uncomfortableness of gender incongruity.
i have a burn/tan line from my tank top yesterday, and another on my right shoulder from my purse .
